1. Play with running water. The sensation of flowing water — from the texture and temperature to the rhythm and pressure of its movement — can help you to get out of your head and into your body. A good quality hand-held/removable shower-head is all you need to start experimenting with full body pleasure with ease, as you can seamlessly slide shower play into your daily routine.
Take your time to explore sensations across your body rather than going straight to the hot spots. Tune into every sensation and allow yourself to build to erotic pleasure without pressure. And when you get to the good stuff, start slowly and increase the pressure as your arousal builds.
2. Experiment with sensory overload. You’ve heard of sensory deprivation and the ways in which removing one sense can heighten the others (e.g. a blindfold can help you to tune into physical sensations), but have you considered the opposite — overwhelming one sense?
You might play loud music to overwhelm your auditory system to help you stay in the moment and heighten the emotional experience (since music can alter your mood).
Or you might have your lover touch you from head to toe varying strokes, textures and pressure. Encourage them to touch with as many points of contact as possible using their hands, lips, breath, cheeks and more so that your body becomes enveloped in unpredictable physical sensations.
And of course, you can play with visual overload by watching erotica on multiple screens during sex.
3. Fantasize using fictional scenes as inspiration. You already know that your brain is your most powerful sex organ, so let it reach its full potential and allow your thoughts to wander into uncharted territory without inhibition. If you don’t know where to start, think about a scene from a film or TV show that felt exciting or arousing…
- What did you like about it? Was it the characters? Did you enjoy the setting?
- Did the language, bodies, interactions or something else appeal to you?
- How do you fit into the scene?
- Do you want to be like one of the characters? Or do you want to be with one of them instead?
- How does the scene make you feel?
- What do you enjoy about that feeling?
- What can you do to tap into that feeling?
You can fantasize about anything at all knowing that fantasies need not turn into reality and it’s perfectly normal to fantasize about scenarios, roles, interactions and people that don’t appeal to you in real life. That’s the appeal of erotic escapism!
4. Make more noise. Research indicates that our copulatory vocalizations (AKA sex sounds) don’t always correspond to our own pleasure – instead, we make sounds to please our partners and/or align with perceived expectations. But when you let your sounds emanate without inhibition, it can facilitate relaxation and presence, which in turn encourage sexual response and pleasure. So release all your sounds — your natural grunts, moans, ahhhs and screams have the potential to take you (and your partner) over the edge.
If you feel self-conscious about the sounds you make during sex, practice exaggerating during self-pleasure. Breathe more deeply. Play loud music until you get comfortable with your vocalizations. And give yourself permission to release every little and not-so-little noise in the name of deeper pleasure. Once you get comfortable with your sex sounds when you’re on your own, it will be easier to let them flow with a partner.
5. Tap into the power of vibrations. Vibes are associated with more pleasure, arousal, intensity and orgasmic response for all bodies. And the Hitachi Magic Wand offers powerful, beautifully diffused vibrations that can be used across the body. Whether you’re looking to relax and sink into pleasurable sensations or you’re simply seeking new pathways to pleasure, the wand will help you get out of your head and into your body in the most ecstatic of ways.
